Three Positives Trump Anger Every Time

 Anger — 2 comments by kaeis

(The following is my comment to a post simply titled, “Anger.”)

You want anger?
I’ll give you anger. So much anger it’ll make your head spin.

Well, not really. You see, I don’t like myself when angry. I feel I have lost control of me. I feel the good in me has been stabbed by an unwelcome visitor.

I get anger from my PTSD and have to be careful because I can hurt someone if the emotion is allowed to run free.

Now, what’s this about your innocence?
You still have it.

You may have lost a feeling, been betrayed, given up something precious.

But the real you, that c h i l d inside is still there and can be contacted on a daily basis once you set your mind to it and try to recall those moments when you loved something.

No, not another human being.
It can be a favorite dog, a song, a picture, even a small child or elderly person who rekindled memories of more joyful times.

But you got to grab that feeling and stretch it out as far as possible. This allows you to build on it later with another positive emotion and then another until you get to the point in your life when you are dueling with anger from a 3 to 1 odds. You get three really good positive feelings to that one spike of a bastard, Mr. Anger.

Positive will win out in the long run. That is, if your string of positive feelings have been built up and you habitually look for more positivism in your life.

But only if you let the anger dissipate. It CAN kill you and take away 10 years of your life, according to latest scientific research.

Hey. Stay cool. Live longer. More happily.


Michael J

  • Hello there. Thank you for your advice. It helped me focus on what’s important.
    I am now feeling a lot better, even though I mentioned that I didn’t want to, at least not for a while.

    When I was writing this blog, it’s not as if I “want” to be angry, it’s just that sometimes it is hard for me to let go.

    And about my innocence, you are right. It’s kind of still there, but “sometimes” I just feel that it is a different person, rather than it being myself in the past.

    I know that I’m turning into this grumpy, pessimistic and bitter person, and I’m trying my best to pull myself away from that. Despite saying that, there are several events in my daily life that triggers the bitterness in me. As you have said, I guess I’ll have to make a habit of finding positivity in life.

    Again, Thank you, Michael, for your kind words.


5 comments on “Three Positives Trump Anger Every Time

  1. Belle says:

    Can you mention the name of that Sufi book? I have read a few things here or there, but I’d love to read more about the divine longing Sufi’s are so good at describing… (and thanks!)


    • contoveros says:

      The Sufi book is called “The Call & The Echo,” by Llewellyn Vaugn Lee, copyrighted 1992.

      There are many quotes that move me toward a gentle loving of my self, and a pulsating love of the Divine.

      A friend with whom I study reflexology, loaned me the book. I recently called her my teacher, even though she is 10 years younger than me and calls herself a “dumb blonde.” She has enlightened me and opened my eyes to new worlds.



  2. PTSD: Anger

    I am also diagnosed with PTSD and Borderline Personality Disorder. The thing that I always try to emphasize is that I AM NOT MY DIAGNOSIS. I have the diagnosis but I am still a person and I work on recovery every single day of my life.

    I also have to be on guard against anger. I feel anger physically before I am aware of it mentally. I know that I am getting angry when I feel the tension in my throat and the tightness in my chest. I can choose to stop the anger there by using techniques that I talk about from time to time in blogs, or, I can indulge the anger until it hits me mentally and physically and I explode and break something or hurt someone. I work hard to never reach that point because I know what it feels like when I am beginning to get angry I can stop the train before it is traveling a hundred miles an hour.

    It is easier to stop a train when it first leaves the station when it is only traveling five or ten miles an hour just by applying the breaks. The train will stop. If you wait until the train is barreling down the tracks at 55 or 60 miles an hour and then you try to stop the train by hitting the breaks the train will not stop for at least a mile and sometimes more. This means that because the train wasn’t stopped when it was just building speed, it was let to build more and more inertia until it can become a deadly force.

    Anger is the same way. Stop it before the inertia begins and the anger will cease. Allow it to build speed and anger will hurt someone, even if that someone is yourself.


    • contoveros says:


      Aren’t you the lady in the meditative pose with the long blonde hair?

      Nice to see you on this side of the fence!

      So you got PTSD too. It’s tough to deal with the negative emotions, particularly, the anger. I feel like such a failure after having one of my episodes and have to apologize for my outbursts.

      They occur over the smallest things.

      Unfortunately, they don’t seem small at the time and I got all the rationalization in the world to fire up the heat of anger, like throwing more coal or wood into the burning engine of a steadily increasing speeding (can we say “runaway?”) train.

      Hey, I like how you handle your words. They got a nice touch to them, kinda like a girl I knew in grade school who captured my heart and left me longing for more.

      (I just read a book on Sufi stuff and the heart-breaking “longing” for love, “Divine Love” has loosened my romantic tongue, not to mention my writing pen, and thus I say to all:
      “Love is all there is . . .”)

      Stay in touch!

      Michael J


Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.