Gratitude arises from an Hawaiian prayer

I’m Sorry, Please Forgive Me, I Love You, Thank You!

I meditated yesterday with members of the Center for Contemporary Mysticism in Chestnut Hill and found love hidden beneath a wall of pain I build up with my first wife.

I asked her to forgive me after telling her how sorry I was for hurting her, and that I always loved her and wanted to thank her for all she did for me.

It was part of the Hawaiian meditation prayer, one called “Ho’oponopono,” where you focused on your breathing and visualizations of whatever the heart and mind manifested. Some Buddhist-types believe that the heart and the mind are one object and that we can control the mind by letting the heart take over.

I let them merge while in a small chapel with some 10 others meditating at St. Paul’s Episcopal Church in a section of Philadelphia. The guided meditation focused on romantic love, education and forgiveness among other things. I thought of Ella Gore, my wife whom I married at age 21, about a month before I went to Vietnam. I got married in part because of “war fever,” not knowing whether I’d die before experiencing marital bliss.

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I also married because of love.

She was a Cajun girl, barely out of her teens, when I swept her off her feet as a brand new second lieutenant while stationed in Ft. Polk Louisiana, not far from New Orleans, the Crawfish Capital of the World. She reminded me of my ex-girlfriend, Peggy McPeake, and I had to marry Ella when I brought her home and my mother refused to let us stay under her roof unless we got hitched.

“You are My Sunshine” was a favorite song she’d sing and dance to when we first met and cuddled in my bachelor pad off the military base. I had just finished reading the Tibetan Book of the Dead and longed for Life in its fullest as I took her into my arms and pledged my devotion to her.

The marriage didn’t last. I returned from the war a different man and we drifted apart as she worked and helped put me through college. I hurt her with my infidelities and my need to prove myself. I felt I was a “loser” following Vietnam. And I strove for success no matter who I used or manipulated to enrich my ego.

I’m sorry, Please forgive me. I love you. Thank you!

It feels good to confess and admit that love can heal what I thought was unhealable.   Ho’oponopono!

8 comments on “Gratitude arises from an Hawaiian prayer

  1. Patrice C. says:


    I would like to tell about ho’oponopono, Dr. Hew Len and about Morrnah Simeona.

    The Mantra “i love you, please forgive you, im sorry, thank you.” is not ho’oponopono and is not hawaiian. Dr. Hew Len never healed with a mantra “i love you, please forgive you, im sorry, thank you.” in Hawaii State Hospital. This Mantra was developed by Dr. Hew Len after Morrnah Simeonas death and its not ho’oponopono and not hawaiian.

    Morrnah Simeona (1913 – 1992) was a native hawaiian kahuna. She adapted the traditional Ho’oponopono to today’s times and realities. She has developed a 14-step Ho’oponopono-process. Everyone can learn and use this process. This is a modern version of the traditional Ho’oponopono process. Morrnah has founded the “Pacifica Seminars” in the 1970s and then the “Foundation of I” to spread her 14-step ho’oponopono around the world. She made it possible for all people to solve their problems with her 14-Step Ho’oponopono.
    In September 1990, Morrnah and Yvette Mauri founded “Pacifica Seminars” in Germany (see Pacifica Seminars Europe is the only organization in Europe, where you can learn Morrnah’s original Ho’oponopono-process today, that was developed by Morrnah.

    Morrnah Simeona was the teacher of Michael Micklei and Dr. Hew Len. Michael Micklei worked closely with Morrnah around 5 years together. Morrnah lived in Michael Mickleis and Yvettes home in Germany until she passed away in 1992. Michael Micklei translated Morrnah’s 14-step ho’oponopono to german. He has been authorized to do so by Morrnah Simeona.
    Michael Micklei knows Dr. Hew Len already at the time, while Dr. Hew Len worked in the Hawaii state Hospital in the 1980s. Michael Micklei and Dr. Hew Len gave togehter Ho’oponopono seminars (at that time Morrnah was still alive). In the seminars were teached only the 14-step ho’oponopono process of Morrnah Simeona. Never a mantra.

    Michael Micklei wrote in a comment to an another person:

    Dr. Len never healed in the mentioned hospital by only saying over and over “I love you” and “Thank you” to the “I”, Morrnahs word for the Source, for Divinity. Instead he used Morrnahs 12 (or 14) step process only, twice or three times a day. Every day he walked through the hospital he looked carefully to the patients, the doctors, his feelings. He taped this. And asked Divinity to heal his karmic bondages with these persons and matters. A hard job for three years. Divinity accepted the plea and healed. 2 persons were not healed, as there were no karmic bondages with Dr. Len.

    Morrnah gave him this kind of order to do so (and at that time he worked really for the good to help Morrnah for her special spiritual job) and in classes, we both attended between Nov. 86 and later, Dr. Len was always telling in detail at the beginning that he was doing exactly this, nothing else. NO mantra was mentioned, never. At that time, Dr. Len was a student of Morrnah like me, so why and how could he use a quite different way in the hospital – and at the weekend in classes he said the opposite? Morrnah was also complex clairvoyant, she could see and hear everything.

    All so called tools of Dr. Len (except 2 or 3) were developped by Dr. Len after 1992, which are only temporarily harmonizing or calming down – NOT cleansing, NOT being any ho’oponopono, as they are not mutual. They are (powerful) magic tools. They are not bad in itsself, but they block people to learn authentic ho’oponoponos – traditional ones or the one of Morrnah. People like those easy magic ways, they really think to heal karmic stuff of hundreds and more reincarnations by 11 words.

    It is clearly the good part of Joe Vitale’s job to spread the name of ho’oponopono from the time of “Zero limits” across the world – but the illusion is inclusive: people know the name, but did not hear about the real content of ho’oponopono or even forget it. Pls keep in mind Dr. Len’s words (received by his divinity) in Zero Limits: “I’ve been told to kill the Divine to be home.” To kill the Divine? Well, starting to take him out from the cleansing. This does not seem a path up to the mountain.
    mahalo for sharing.”

    End of Quote

    link to the full comment:

    Dr. Hew Len does not speak anymore about Morrnah’s 14-step Ho’oponopono today and about the healings of his patients in Hawaii State Hospital with Morrnah’s Ho’oponopono.
    Nobody talks about Morrnah’s 14-step Ho’oponopono today. Morrnah’s Ho’oponopono is no longer known to anyone today. I really hope that Morrnah’s original Ho’oponopono-process regains fame among the people.
    I know Morrnah’s Ho’oponopono and would highly recommend it. So many things in my life have changed positively trough Morrnah’s Ho’oponopono.

    I can only say, steer clear of Dr. Hew Lens 4-phrase mantra and of Dr. Hew Lens cleaning tools!

    Michael Micklei has written a report about Dr. Hew Len and the healings in Hawaii State Hospital that happend with Morrnah’s 14-step Ho’oponopono. Please let me share this link (is only in german language, please use Google tanslator to translate to your language):

    As far as I know, Morrnah has been working hard on her 14-step ho’oponopono process for many, many years. Morrnah Simeona completed the final version of her 14-step Ho’oponopono process in 1991. It is the final version today. Pacifica Seminars teach this final version of Morrnah’s Ho’oponopono in seminars and in a book.

    Please share this information to another people 🙂

    Aloha and kind regards

    Patrice C.

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  2. Michael, I am always impressed by the way that you process your experiences and translate into cohesive civil dialect that is accessible. It seems that you leave nothing essential out and you add nothing extraneous. I don’t believe that you “work” at this. Rather, I believe that it is instinctive and I might add amazing!!

    Regarding the content of this entry, it has been my experience that real love does not end. However, as we evolve, our expression of our love for someone may need to change. One example for me would be my son. He is no longer in this realm and I cannot hug him, however, I continue to love him and my love is expressed in a different form. On a different level, in my family, we seem to embrace the Dave Mason.. We Just Disagree philosophy. Ex’s are in attendance at all events (mother’s ex’s and their newest friend/husband, father’s ex’s and their newest friend/wife, etc., etc.). Don’t get me wrong, the separations weren’t hearts and roses but, in a short time we all seem to move past that phase and on to our next life phase. So, you can imagine what the audience of a funeral is like! 🙂 Remind me to tell you about one of my major birthday surprise parties! Ha!


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    • contoveros says:

      Boy, I miss you guys. You give me the incentive to write when I’m with you and to ponder life through your comments when we are apart.

      We’re never really apart, are we Cassandra? Once our minds and hearts embrace, love carries us to another plane, another realm where we share in the Almighty Good.

      Thanks for your insight and your teachings. You should write a book about them. Put it into poetry first and then carve out a non-fictional fiction that only you and your minister would know is the Truth.

      See you soon!

      I’m sorry, Please forgive me. I love you. Thank you!

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  3. Rebecca Goff says:

    Michael, I appreciate your honesty. I think I have been waiting for my only husband, John to do this. My story is Ella’s, magnified by John’s desertion of not only me, but his two little children. As I grow, I have let go of any hopes and expectations from this soul. I am finally learning to Love ME. Surrounding myself with souls seeking same serenity, is His answer. Thanks for sharing your lesson.

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    • contoveros says:

      When I first heard of the Hawaiian prayer, it was directed toward all of my ancestors that might have caused another person pain. My teacher was a Shaman who often said the prayer while driving, claiming she was asking for forgiveness for all of her relatives, alive and dead, who might have cut some one off while driving.

      That stuck with me. A prayer for my ancestors. Like my mother, of whom I believe was unfaithful to my father. My dad was in his 50’s when i was born, and while he looked like Errol Flynn , his swashbuckling days were over by the time I reached the state of reason. Who knows how many affairs my biological grandfather had. He was a bigamist with a family here in New Jersey and another somewhere in Canada!

      So, Rebecca, let me apologize not only for my ancestors, but for my entire species — men, those foolish dogs — who betrayed their love for women and are too stupid today to seek forgiveness . . .

      Mea Culpa, Mea Culpa, Mea Maxima Culpa.

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